EMOTIONAL RECOVERY

This whole post may sound jumbled and incoherent. Forgive me, I’ve been suffering from writer’s block but I wanted to quickly put down my thoughts on this particular subject of Emotional Recovery. 

Emotional Recovery or Emotional healing as others call it is very important before you get into another relationship or find yourself dating. I always found myself jumping into one relationship after another, I never gave myself time to heal from the last one before jumping into the next one. My homie tried to warn me to chill and take a break for a bit but I never listened to him. This post is primarily inspired by my last relationship and how my failure to take time out to recover emotionally eventually led me to hurt a woman i truly cared about. Here was a woman who would have walked to hell with me if I had asked her, she loved me and she would have followed me into the abyss if I had asked her to. I never recovered from my last relationships before I got with her and the truth is when you are emotionally tapped out, when your emotional gas tank is on empty, no matter how much you care for the other person you can’t love them like they need you to. Little sentimental things that make up a good relationship become a chore, texting her good morning, texting her I love you, leaving cute voicemails. It seems like the other person is the only one pulling their weight in the relationship. 

Spend time recovering from past relationships before jumping into a new one. You may find yourself giving only 50% in the relationship while your partner is giving 100%. I hadn’t recovered 100% and anybody could have seen that but sometimes some women and men would rather have a 50% version of you than not have you at all. In this generation were “titles” mean everything, the rush to have an official title of boyfriend or girlfriend leads people to jump into relationships that have no solid foundation. 

Personally, I got tired of seeing the look of disappointment in her eyes when she realized I wasn’t pulling my weight in the relationship. It always seemed like she was the only one investing more in the relationship. I couldn’t give what i did not have to give and the resentment that she came to have for me eventually led to a bad break up. If I could go back and change anything I would never have gotten into a relationship with her until I had healed properly. I would not have rushed anything, I would take my time getting to know her. Sometimes you end up hurting people you never really set out to hurt. 

In conclusion, don’t rush getting into a new relationship after you just got out of an old one. Take your time, get to know yourself a little better and recover.